Lachlan+Kennedy

**Lachlan's Reflective Journal**
Identify and explain the 3 interpersonal skills you selected and demonstrated with specific examples.
 * 1) In each entry, reflect on how the use of your interpersonal skills is impacting on the team. Consider the expectations of your role and any changes that you could make to improve your skills. Ensure that you answer the following questions:

- What impact resulted from demonstrating your interpersonal skills?

- What could you do to improve your interpersonal skills to create a positive impact on others?

- Start by listing/identifying the interpersonal skills you will be discussing in each entry

Interpersonal Skills
 * 1) Solving Problems
 * 2) Including others
 * 3) Negotiating

Week One Entry 1 Today we played soccer as a class. I am a referee and player for the Blue Team. We rotate around and play four teams a day. We played well as a team and tried our hardest. We managed to win most of our games. Even though i used all my interpersonal skills, my interpersonal skill negotiating impacted my team a lot as i am a referee and had to make a crucial decision if whether or not a goal should count. This goal was important to both teams as it would decide who won the game, so i used my interpersonal skill of negotiating with the other teams referee and we came to a decision.To improve my interpersonal skill of negotiating I could make more decisions on the not-so important decisions, to help make the game more fair as a whole.

I used my interpersonal skill of including others by letting the other teams referee help with the decisions as he wasn't interested in making the decisions. So I went over to him and asked what he thought the decision was and he put in his input and made him feel good. To improve this skill I could include more players in my team with general game play.

My interpersonal skill of solving problems to help resolve conflict when the referees couldn't come to decisions within the game. This would've stoped the game as we couldn't have come to a decision and wouldn't be able to continue play. We both came together and decided on what we were going to do and continued play. To improve this skill I could solve the problems faster to create less friction between the teams.

Entry 2 Today i had whanau photos and missed the first game, which we lost 3-0. I believe this was due to a lack of positions so when i came we solved this problem and won our next three games, this skill was also used, with the help of negotiating, to make decisions as to which direction the game went. Solving problems is an important one of my interpersonal skills as without solutions, problems will continue to make you and your teams game worse, which will not help your team gain confidence as players or people. To improve this skill i could solve problems when they first occur, to help minimize the damage done by them.

In the other games, I used my interpersonal skill of including others when i noticed one of my team members not getting in the game to much. So i used this skill by passing them the ball often so they could fully get into the game, and they ended up scoring and feeling good about themselves. To improve this skill I could pass the ball more often to help my team mates feel as good about themselves as possible.

I used my interpersonal skill of problem solving when our equipment organizer wasn't here so I helped set up in his place This would've been a problem as if there was no equipment we couldn't have played. To improve this skill I could have got the equipment set up faster to get more time playing football.

Week Two

Entry 1 Today we had more football. We won most of our games and I used my interpersonal skill of solving problems and including others when a player didn't want to be goalie, so I took over for them. This was a problem as the player wasn't being included and didn't have much fun. I like being goalie so this not an issue to me. Also, as this player was not being included, it used the interpersonal skill of including others and negotiating as we had to discuss who was going to be goalie. To improve my skill of solving problems i could have asked the players if they wanted to do it, as they might have enjoyed it more. This would also improve my skill of including others and negotiating as we would have to negotiate to decide who would play goalie and include them in the decision making process. Entry 2 Today was a really hot day. This meant that a lot of players, including myself, got tired faster and ended up unmotivated to play. This posed a problem for the blue team and the use of the interpersonal skills including others and problem solving played a heavy roll in the motivation of our team as we had to include all team members in the games to keep them interested. This worked well as we ended up winning a lot of games. Also, i used my interpersonal skill of negotiating to help pick mvp of the green team. In the end we chose Angus cause he had the best game. To improve my skill of including others I could include people more often. To improve my skill of negotiating I could include more people in the decision process. To improve my skill of problem solving I could make solutions faster and more effectively.

Week Three

Entry 1 Today was the first day of soccer for me this week, as I had a field trip yesterday. It started off bad as we lost our first game, but won our second. In the last game, I used my interpersonal skill negotiating when our team scored the only goal of the match, but the ball went out. The other referee and I decided not to award the goal, and the match ended in a nil all draw. This made some of my other team members angry, but I knew it was the right decision to make. I used problem solving when there was a conflict between me and another referees, but we solved it and continued the game. I used including others by making sure my team all got a turn with the ball. To improve my skill of negotiating I could let the other referee have more say in in the negotiating process. This would also improve my skill of including others as I should include the referee more. To improve my skill of problem solving I could find new ways to solve problems that would be more efficient.

Entry 2 Today was an important lesson as we were quite behind on the points table. In our first game I used my interpersonal skill of negotiating to help keep the game fair as a whole. I didn't make any big decisions today but feel I did the little things well as none of our games had any conflict in our games. I used my interpersonal skills of including others and solving problems when one of our members was away, so we got Mr Darkins to play for us. To improve my skill of negotiating I could use more players in the decisions that are being made. This would also improve my skill of including others as I would have top include them for them to make the decisions. To improve my skill of problem solving I could find new ways as I said I could improve on that last time, but couldn't find any new ways today.

Week Four Entry 1 This week is our last week doing football as a class. Firstly I used my interpersonal skill of including others when I got other peoples help to set up the fields. I used my interpersonal skill of negotiating when our reliever Mr T was starting to set up the games and we had to negotiate which teams would play who. I used my skill of problem solving to decide the order as this posed a problem to our class. To improve my skill of including others I could find out if they are busy first, as this may cause problems if they have to do more than one job. To improve my skill of problem solving I could use other peoples ideas on how to solve problems, as they might be better than mine. To improve my skill of negotiating I could pay more attention to the game, this would help me make more accurate calls.

Entry 2 Today is our penultimate lesson of football. I used my interpersonal skill of problem solving when we couldn't find enough posts to make the field, so we used cones instead. I used my skill of including others when one of our team members was talking and was off task, so I asked him to come play and he did. I used my skill of negotiating to decide if a goal should count or not, we decided that it should count and the game ended as 1-1. To improve my skill of problem solving I could solve more problems than I already do. To improve my skill of negotiating I could let the other referee have more say. While I do this already, it would be good to give them more say in the matter. To improve my skill of including others I could rotate the positions of our team so everyone gets to do something they enjoy and try new roles in the team.