Peter+Choi

**Peter Reflective Journal**
Identify and explain the 3 interpersonal skills you selected and demonstrated with specific examples.
 * In each entry, reflect on how the use of your interpersonal skills is impacting on the team. Consider the expectations of your role and any changes that you could make to improve your skills. Ensure that you answer the following questions:
 * What impact resulted from demonstrating your interpersonal skills?
 * What could you do to improve your interpersonal skills to create a positive impact on others?
 * Start by listing/identifying the interpersonal skills you will be discussing in each entry.


 * __Three Interpersonal skills:__**
 * 1) Communicating Effectively
 * 2) Solving Problems
 * 3) Resolving Conflict

==‍ When you are writing your reflections you __MUST__ make sure that you talk about all __THREE__ of your Interpersonal skills in each reflection and give specific examples of how you demonstrated each Interperosnal Skill. This is important as it helps to jusitfy your reflections. ==

Please Read the above questions closely which are in bullet points at the top of your page. You must ensure that all of this is answered. (Mr Darkins)
Today we have played indoor soccer. I mostly enjoyed this activity because of the hard work and effort my team had shown. As a referee, one of my main roles is to make sure that every game that I play is fair as possible. The game that I played today was fairly clean, considering that there weren't any argument/disagreement, fighting, putdowns, etc. Because of this, I did not have a hard time "Solving Problems" in most cases. During the game, I personally believe that our team was constanly "Communicating Effectively". I heard a lot of names and suggestions being called out between our teamates. There were also encouragement and good feedbacks toward teamates and opponents who had scored. This showed me that there was good sportsmanship between most of the players who participated in this activity. As one of those people who had "Communicated Effectively", I constantly tried my best to also encourage others, give good feedbacks and deliver helpful suggestions. For example, in one of the games we played today, I told one of my teamate to pass the ball to his near teamate rather than shooting when he was close to the opponent goal so that it would be much easier and safer to score that goal. After they scored, I gave them good feedbacks such as "nice pass" and "well done with that shooting". I believe this had positively influenced the relationships between me and my teamates. As I have written above, there were no argument whatsoever. Due to this, there weren't any necessary actions taken from me to "Resolve Conflict". :D
 * __Week 1__**
 * 11/6**

Today was outdoor soccer. During this activity, I constantly tried my best to stay active and to "Communicate Effectively" within our teamates. I also gave my best to give good feedbacks toward players who did fairly well. For example, in one of the games we played today, there were 3 opposing teamates running towards our goal with the game ball. There was only one teamate of ours who was defending. Surprisingly, he was able to take the ball away from the opposing players. I told him to kick the ball out of the field so that the other teamates of ours have time to run back to our side of the field. After he had successfully done what I had asked him to do, I gave him good feedback on what he had done. I believe my effective communicating had given encouragement to most of my teamates, allowing them to feel good about what they have done and to feel like their actions were positively influential toward their team. I can perhaps improve "Communicating Effectively" by building stronger relationships between me and my classmates. Building stronger relationships could allow me to talk more comfortably with everyone. In one of our games, there was an opponent player who was intentionally tackled by one of my teamates. This was a problem for a referee to be responsible of. However, my lack of concentration during the game had caused me to take no action about the incident. I believe since no action was taken, it was unfair for the opponent team. This is a problem that must be avoided at all times. As a referee, my role is to make sure that all games are fair as possible. I could improve "Solving Problems" like this by focusing more on the complications we encounter, rather than 'winning/losing'. There weren't any major conflicts during the games.
 * 12/6**

__**Week 2**__ Like every other games I play, I try my best to "Communicate Effectively" by constantly yelling out suggestions of what our players should do during the games. Names and words like "Pass" and "Shoot" are frequently called out. I believe me "Communicating Effectively" in this game had given my teamates some ideas of good strategizing during games. I could improve my communication within our teamates by listening to how our teamates communicate. Their communications could help me understand more about their way of communicating. During the game today, one of our teamate was tackled while he was taking a shot. He was fairly close from the goal for a penalty kick to be given. However, the opposing team argued that he did not deserve a penalty kick because he had kicked the ball before he was tackled. This problem became a critical issue, and eventually led both teams to a major conflict. As a referee, I tried to solve this problem by gathering opinions from every individual players that had seen the incident. In the end, I decided that giving a penalty kick was not necessary to the tackled player. I believe this was more of a mature way to solve the problem, rather than allowing both teams to argue about what should happen that would eventually solve nothing. I could improve my way of "Solving Problems" by encountering many problems similar to this one. Frequently solving problems can get me used to seeing solutions in a more mature way. As written above, the problem that we had led both teams to a conflict. I immediately stopped the conflict by making myself the subject. I told every player that if there is a problem, it should be resolved with a referee. I believe this had not only stopped the argument both teams had, but also gave each individual players an idea of how conflicts should be taken care of (with a referee, rather opposing players). I could improve my way of "Resolving Conflict" by telling each players to "stay clam" or "relax", to let them know that the conflicts that they are facing can be resolved without any major argument.
 * 18/6**

In today's game, there wasn't much communication between me and my teamates. I believe the lack of communication I had was because of the lack of motivation I also had. The lack of motivation was caused by the number of participating teamates there were in our team. Since I was not "Communicating Effectively", I had cause negative influence towards my team. I think I could improve my communication in situations like this by effectively encouraging my teamates. Encouraging my teamates can have them more motivated, allowing them to play more active. This can possibly get us to "Communicate more Effectively" during games similar to the one today. During today's game, there was an opposing player who constantly tackled our teamates in an intentional way. I immediately stopped him from what he was doing and had him out of the game for a short period of time. I believe the action that I had taken allowed both teams to play fair without any injuries having to be seen. This problem could have caused serious injuries to unaware players. I could improve myself "Solving Problems" by letting players know ahead of time that the games we play should be as clean as possible. The tackling of the opposing player had led both teams on the field to a conflict. I sorted this out by letting all players know that the problem should be taken care of by the referees. I believe this allowed both teams to avoid the conflict they were in. I could improve "Resolving Conflict" by letting players know ahead of time that if there was a problem, instead of solving it with opposing players, it should be sorted with someone who is a referee.
 * 21/6**

__**Week 3**__ Today I demonstrated "Communicating Effectively by constantly shouting teamates' names and helpful suggestions on the field. For example, in one of the games I played, I told one of my teamates who was having trouble maintaining his position with the ball to pass to his near teamates. This benefited our team by not losing the ball. I belive my effective communication had allowed my teamates to play more effectively during the games. I could improve "Communicating Effectively" by letting my teamates know that they are more than welcome to throw out any suggestions that they might find useful at any time. This can get our team to talk more frequently, allowing us to communicate more effectively. During today's game, an opposing goalie assisted his teamate who had scored. However, a problem had occurred. The problem was that the goalie was expected to do a goal kick, but instead, had drop kicked it by accident because he did not know the rules well. This became a problem for both teams to decide whether the goal should be approved or not. I solved this problem by firstly, explaining the rules of a goal kick, and secondly, having the opposing goalie to rekick the goal kick. I made decisions that the goal cannot be approved, and that the goalie should be given a second chance to goal kick. I believe this had help players understand a bit more about the rules of soccer, and that it is acceptable for youto make a mistake that you are not aware of because you can have a second chance. There was a major conflict between two opposing teamates because one of them thought that the other did not frequently pass the ball. Although me and my teamates were not involved in this, I stopped the the argument because we couldn't resume the game we were playing. I told both players to resolve their problems outside of the field so that there wouldn't be any disturbance during the game. I could improve "Resolving Conflict" by warning every players before hand that any arguments on the field will not be tolerated.
 * 25/6**

Today I demonstrated "Communicating Effectively" by yelling out suggestions, calling names and constantly encouraging others. For example, during one of our games, one of my teamates was having trouble escaping through few opposing players. I ran toward him and yelled "man on," letting him know that he has someone near him to pass to. I believe my effective communication had help my teamates play more effectively on the field. I could improve the effectiveness of my communication by talking with my teamates often even outside of games. In one of our games, I was told by one of the referees on the field that there has been too many deliberate fouls between few players. I solved this problem by stopping the game, and telling everyone players who deliberately foul will be off the field. I believe me solving this problem had help players on the field to have a safe & fair game. I could improve "Solving Problems" by frequently discussing problems similar to this one with other referees. In our last game, there was a conflict between a teamate of mine and an opposing teamate. They were arguing about one of them being off side. I stopped their argument and took suggestions from others players who may have seen the incident to determine whether a free kick was necessary or not. I could improve "Resolving Conflict" by understanding players better.
 * 26/6**

__**Week 4**__ I demonstrated "Communicating Effectively" today by yelling out suggestions, calling names and constantly encouraging others. For example, during one of our games, an opposing teamate ran toward our goal with the game ball. This ment that our goalie had to 1v1 with that opposing teamate. I yelled out to our goalie to come out so that the opposing teamate would have less angle to shoot. I believe me "Communicating Effectively" today had help players understand a bit more about being a goalie. I could improve "Communicating Effectively" by constantly yelling out as many suggestions I can think of as possible. During another game, there was an opposing teamate who kept giving negative feedbacks toward every players on the field. I first warned him that if he continues to do what he was doing, he would be sent off the field. He was eventually sent off the field for continuing his inappropriate behaviour. I believe me solving this problem allowed players on the field to play with no disencouragement that may affect them negatively. In our last game, a conflict had occured between two of my teamates because one of them suggested that the other was not putting full effort into the games we were playing. I stopped their argument and told them that fighting over it would not solve anything. I also told them that there should be no arguments during the games we play.
 * 1/7**

In today's game, "Communicating Effectively" was demonstrated by giving a lot of suggestions to my teamates. For example, during one of our games, I told few of my teamates that when they have the ball, booting it down the half like is the best option. This was done to prevent the opposing players from shooting the ball frequently in our goal area. I believe this helped our team play more effectively by having more control of the ball. I could improve communicating effectively by talking more frequently within our teamates. In another game, one of our teamates kicked the game ball in a random direction with great force because the opposing team scored a goal. This was a problem because the teamate had shown bad sportsmanship towards every players on the field. I solved this problem by giving him a short time-out. I told him that he can resume playing if he stops showing disrespect on the field. I believe me solving this problem allowed players on the field to play without bad sportsmanship. I could improve "Solving Problems" by asking for advices from other referees. During our third game, a conflict occured between one of my teamates and an opposing teamate. They argued that one of them kept deliberately pushing the other during the game. I stopped their argument and started lecturing them about good sportsmanship. They eventually apologized to each other and made up. I believe me resolving this conflict helped players understand the importance of good sportsmanship. I could improve "Resolving Conflict" by talking more sensitively. ;D
 * 4/7**